Speaker: Nicky Nargues Adle

31Million Part Deux

Please welcome Nicky Adle back to hear more about “The French Touch” and how 31 Million women manage and maintain effortless chic and the decadence of French cuisine – without twisting their ankles or gaining a gram.

In the first workshop, we learned the secrets of switching from flip-flops to heels and how to accentuate our assets with accessories and “standard items” in our wardrobe.

Today we will extend our foray into the “French Touch” by discovering The Secrets of French Nutrition. In this workshop you will learn:

-       French women’s approach to weight, satisfaction, pleasure, etc.

-       The tradeoffs they face and decisions they make, the mindset they use regarding food

-       Social norms on dieting and guilt, but also snacking, junk food as well as alcohol

-       The tricks they use on a regular basis

-       Typical meals and recipes for you and your family

-       And finally, the secret, the one and only rule you’ll need to apply, like 31 Million French women do

31 Million is a personal style consultancy that trains women on the ins and outs of French fashion whilst exposing them to the secrets of French style and nutrition. Our focus is to offer women in their 20’s to 50’s French style and nutrition lessons, organize for personal wardrobe consultations, arrange exclusive and fun Paris shopping trips, as well as provide a rental platform where women can gain access to French-styled clothing and accessories for any occasion.

31 Million started as a fun venture in Amsterdam, where Franco-Iranian Nicky Adle was missing the action of Paris shopping and decided to spread the word that French women don’t have more taste than others but simply dress and eat according to implicit rules that together constitute the French Touch. Raised in Paris, Nicky has been living in and out of France for the past 15 years, has never (ever!) shopped outside her hometown, or given up on her French eating habits. Like most Parisians, she knows the capital’s shops, current styles and future trends.

On weekdays Nicky is an INSEAD MBA graduate and internet entrepreneur, currently launching wondersale.nl, a promotions and discounts webshop that activates on key calendar dates such as Sinterklaas, Christmas, Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day.

Website: www.31million.net
Weblog: http://31million.blogspot.com/
Facebook Fan Page: http://www.facebook.com/pages/31-Million-The-French-Touch/279785544491

Enjoy the class!

**SEATING IS LIMITED**
Be sure to register by clicking the register “as a guest” or “as a member” link above this post.
Participants are welcome to network from 19:00 to 20:00. The program begins at 20:00.

Registration and Guest Policy: Registration is required for members (15 Euros) and guests (guests are welcome at a cost of 35 Euro which includes snacks and drinks). Guests are allowed to attend two EuropeanPWN-Amsterdam functions per year. Please contact Caroline van Leuven, our VP Membership.

Despite the fact that this situation is an economic nightmare and chaos for millions of people and organizations it was a positive and extremely interesting experience.
Read below my observations on organic groups, Uncertainty and External Control

The situation
On April 17th, I arrived at 10:00 hrs in Madrid after a 12 hours Iberia flight from Bogotá, where I delivered a number of trainings. My connecting flight to Amsterdam was cancelled. After standing five hours in line to get on a bus to Brussels, 17 hours on the bus and 5 hours on a train, I finally arrived at 17.00 hrs on the 18th of April in Amsterdam.

The situation at the airport was pretty chaotic in spite of the wonderful job IBERIA tried to do. There was little information on just about anything. The information which was available on flights and airport, on if and when busses would arrive at the airport to pick up passengers, on destinations of the busses, on lists of passengers for each bus etc etc.

What was positive about this experience and what did I observe:
- How an organic group of 15-20 people is formed while standing in line, mostly based on destination. Existing of 6 or more nationalities/languages.
- How uncertainty bonds people very quickly. The unity and power of the Group deals with the External control of the situation.
- How one can take the situation as an opportunity to meet great people from all over the world and having time to talk to them.
- How a natural leader stands up and takes charge of the group. Everyone follows his leadership. No power struggle between other possible leaders.
- How members of the group work to keep a good and positive spirit for every individual in the group. Group members rebuked impatient and angry passengers towards the very kind Iberia personnel. Complaining group members were taken apart and asked not to burden others with their problems.
- How each and everyone uses his qualities to be of service to the group. How the group accepts roles without questioning.
Such as providing food supplies, this was not done by the airlines, guarding each other’s luggage, obtaining information, entertaining and taking care of the children in the group, translations for every one etc. etc.
- Understood my own organic role in a group. Getting the relevant information from various sources at the airport and provide the group with a comprehensive message on the situation. (Due to my studies in Aviation Economy and 15 years of airline experience as well as the many languages I happen to speak).
- How the group kept his living area clean at the airport and in the bus.
- The group took care of each other throughout the 17 hours bus ride.

It was a tremendous experience and I am extremely grateful to be home safely…and with my luggage.

With thanks to Iberia, the two drivers of the bus and all the passengers in that bus from Madrid to Brussels.

Eleonore Breukel – Intercultural Communication bv Amsterdam

Speaker: Ursula Brinkmann

Organizer: Anna Farrenkopf

The Entrepreneur’s Corner is one of the new and exciting initiatives of the European Professional Women’s Network. Its objective is to ensure that the needs and interests of the entrepreneurs in the network are being met – which is certainly especially important given the current economic climate.

To support this initiative, EPWN invites you to a brainstorming session on 28th of April facilitated by Ursula Brinkmann. The session is intended to gather and collate all ideas, needs, interests, concerns that you as a self-employed EPWN member, as one of our entrepreneurs, have identified, and to communicate the outcome of the session to the EPWN board.

Ursula will guide you through the process of Silent Brainstorming, conducted in groups of about 7 participants. Whatever comes up during the brainstorming session we will then cluster together and prioritize in an engaging, commitment-building process. Ursula has used this approach several times in her own training interventions and just the method alone is worth trying out!

Ursula is co-founder and director of Intercultural Business Improvement Ltd, a consultancy and training firm specialized in intercultural management development.

Ursula has been delivering courses and presentations for a number of public and private organizations. One of her recent assignments consisted of workshops on Managing Dutch-German cultural differences for the integration teams involved in a major cross-border acquisition. In 2007/2008 she was responsible for an integration program for a European corporation; the program combined training, individual assessment, coaching as well as networking events for 180 managers.

Together with Oscar van Weerdenburg, Ursula developed the Intercultural Readiness Check (IRC), a questionnaire assessing four key intercultural competences. The IRC has been widely recognized in the academic and business communities, and its database by now is one of the largest sources of information on intercultural competences world-wide.

In our training sessions, we regularly receive this type of question from participants: “Why is my Russian colleague always so negative? Is it something I did wrong?” asks Tom from London. Our answer is: “On the contrary Tom, your Russian colleague trusts you enough to share his concerns with you. Actually he is trying to be friends and bond with you.”

Bonding by complaining

In Western Russia, many Eastern European cultures and various cultures in Southern Europe and Latin America, people try to bond with others by complaining. Complaints about the boss or about tasks to be performed or simply about the food, places people ‘together’ in a common situation in which they can relate to each other - bonding with the suffering majority. These complaints are usually expressed with emotion. However, it is passive and is not followed by an action to change the situation that is complained about. An outsider will get the impression that something terrible has happened and that the complainer is deeply unhappy. This however is not the case. There are many reasons for such behavior depending on the context. Some of the underlying reasons may be uncertainty, risk avoidance, xenophobia, fatalism and the feeling of not being in charge as well as being unable to create or accept change.

Seeking appraisal by complaining

Another reason people complain is to seek appraisal. The complainer feels that they have to show and communicate how problematic life or a task is in order to be taken seriously by his boss, colleagues and others. In this case the complainer seeks admiration, respect and compliments for his skills and the effort put into the task.

The mirror

For those coming from a mindset where one bonds by communicating something positive like “isn’t this interesting” or “let us make this work” complaining is seen as negative. For these people, someone who frequently complains at work is seen as being inadequate for the job. Frequent complaining in a social setting is seen as whining and complainers are not taken seriously. In this case, ‘frequent’ means complaining several times a day. Complainers are seen as negative and dissatisfied people whom no one likes to work or socialize with. In case one does complain he is expected to take action to change the situation he complains about. When we look at the American corporate language, we see that the word ‘problem’ has a negative connotation. Therefore, Americans substituted the negative word ‘problem’ by the word ‘challenge’ which has a positive connotation. The word ‘problem’ implies a negative situation, while the word ‘challenge’ has a ‘yes we can change it’ positive type of energy and action in it.

Ideas for creating a positive attitude for everyone

If you have members in your multicultural team who complain to bond or seek appraisal and like to try to create a more positive attitude try the following;

• Explain how you experience complaining.

• Discuss the different interpretations of complaining in various cultures.

• Show how stimulating it can be to have a positive approach towards work.

• Try to provide insight into how complaining influences the energy of the team members from other cultures.

• Together make two lists. One of what is the benefit of complaining for each person present and one of what is the benefit of a positive approach for each person present (energy, pain, admiration) and which of those benefits serve the project or task best.

• Create together a code of communication.

• Make a list of desired behaviors during meetings or ground rules for the team or the office. Post them on the wall as an aid in guiding conversation towards positivity and constructive action oriented communication.

© Eleonore Breukel

www.intercultural.nl

Misunderstandings, irritations, feelings of exclusion and a sense of inferiority, are daily challenges for non-native English speakers trying to communicate in the language of global business. What exactly happens and how can global organizations help employees become more effective in this intercultural language and its various communication styles?

Vast amounts of skill, expertise and knowledge remains hidden in organizations because of language and cultural barriers. Native Spanish, German, Dutch, Turkish, Chinese or Bahasa Indonesia speakers all make a daily effort to understand, speak and write English. Native English speakers try to understand the many variants of non-native speakers.

Together we try to get used to each other’s accents and accept the language mistakes inevitably made. We try to figure out what a good translation would be for a particular expression and how the words are to be interpreted and valued in our own language. We get lost in translation.

On many occasions the native English speakers form the majority at international meetings. They patiently watch how non-native speakers demolish their native language and still praise them on their command of English. Are native English speakers aware of the difficulties non-native speakers face and how this affects their feelings and the dynamics of a discussion or debate?

International presentations and discussions

During presentations at business meetings non-native speakers usually take more time to make their point. Their presentations may not be smooth and exiting since they’re often searching for the right words to use. Words with impact, words that sell their new project to the management. Searching for words causes many ‘umm’s in the speaker’s presentation, which distracts the listener.

Non-native English speakers may have a lot of expertise on a particular subject but may decide not to take part in discussions on it, as their English vocabulary is too limited for a fast intellectual debate. Or they try to memorize the English words the native English speakers use during the discussion, to be able to reproduce those words when it is their turn to speak. In the meantime they loose track of the thread of the discussion or debate.

This has a psychological effect on the non-native as well as native English speakers present in the meeting room. The non-native English speaker often feels inferior and excluded, while the native English speaker wonders if he is capable enough for the job.

What can both native- and non-native English speakers do?

• Observe if people frown or squeeze their eyes. This is often body language for not understanding a speaker.

• Ask once, twice or even three times if you do not understand.

• Ask questions frequently in order to know if that what is discussed is also understood.

• Summarize often or ask others to summarize for you.

• Invite a non-native English speaker to participate in the discussion and reassure him that if the language is a problem you will help.

• Native English speakers avoid proverbs, expressions, metaphors, slang, jargon and abbreviations.

• Non-native English speaker avoid translating proverbs, metaphors or jokes from your own language into the English language.

The internet

On the internet there are no facial expressions, gestures, or other non-verbal cues, which makes communication even more complicated. During a serious written virtual discussion, the non-native English speaker will want to check his English for mistakes. After all he does not want to lose face in front of three – or maybe 30,000 – people who might read his text.

As with verbal discussion, the thinking process is delayed by the search for words and the attempt to memorize words used by previous writers. Consequently, native English speaking people tend to dominate on the internet in the same way they might in meeting rooms.

What can you do?

• If you are a non-native English speaker and you think you have something valuable to say, say it and try to explain and describe what you mean.

• Use translation resources such as translate google or freetranslation.com

It is far from perfect, but it helps.

• Both native and non-native English speakers ask questions if you do not understand.

Cultural interpretations

As if translations weren’t complicated enough, a single word can have different cultural interpretations. The word and concept ‘contract’ requires different actions in various cultures. In U.S. English it does not have the same substantive meaning as the same word in Guiana, also an English-speaking country. In Japanese, it carries a different meaning as well.

Likewise the word ‘assertiveness’ varies according to the cultural values of the respective countries. In the Netherlands this carries a very positive connotation, while the same concept in Vietnam is highly negative.

What can you do?

• Make sure that you have thoroughly discussed the cultural interpretation of words before you start any collaboration or sign a contract.

Communication styles

Even if English is the global language of business, cultures maintain their own style of communicating. This frequently causes serious misunderstandings and irritations especially as we have no insight into our own communication style and the affect this has on people with a different cultural background.

Some may be offended by the directness of a foreign colleague while others find indirectness a cause for suspicion. There are cultures where people need many words to express themselves, such as in Italy or in India, while in other cultures people limit themselves to the minimum number of words possible, such as the Danish or the Dutch.

What can you do?

• Observe discussion programs on foreign television stations and look at the verbal and non-verbal communication style. Don’t worry if you understand the language or not.

• Watch foreign movies. Pay attention to those produced and directed by the countries you work with. Movies make it possible to ‘participate’ in the culture while you watch. They inform you about how people live and communicate.

• For those who are naturally direct, consider what impact your words may have before you speak.

• For those needing many words to express themselves, try not deviate from the main subject and save details for later.

Best results

The best results are achieved when people from different cultural backgrounds – both native- and non-native English speakers – look for solutions together with the condition that everyone is understood and feels included.

© Eleonore Breukel

www.intercultural.nl